Ah, the first period—a milestone every mother knows is coming but one that often sneaks up on our daughters before we’ve had a chance to fully prepare them. If your preteen is nearing that age, it’s time for “The Talk.” But don’t worry, this isn’t a conversation to dread. With a bit of love, humor, and a sprinkle of motherly wisdom, you can make this rite of passage a positive and empowering experience for your daughter.

Start with the Basics—But Keep It Light!

First things first, let’s talk about the “what” and the “why.” Explain to your daughter that getting her period is a completely normal and healthy part of growing up. It’s her body’s way of saying, “Hey, I’m getting ready for the next stage of life!” Use simple, clear language—after all, no need to get overly scientific. But don’t be afraid to sprinkle in a little humor. For example, you might say, “Your body is just showing off its new skills. It’s like, ‘Look, Mom! I can do this now!’”

Share Your Own Story—With a Laugh!

Nothing breaks the ice better than sharing your own first-period story, especially if it involves a funny or awkward moment. Did you think you were dying when you first saw blood in your underwear? Did you panic and run to your mom, only to be reassured with a hug and a chocolate bar? Let your daughter see that it’s okay to feel a little overwhelmed, but that it’s also something every girl goes through—often with a good laugh along the way.

Equip Her with a “Period Kit”—and a Smile

Help your daughter feel prepared by creating a little “period kit” together. This can be a fun activity—think of it as putting together a survival kit, but for life’s monthly adventure. Include pads, tampons (if she’s ready), a couple of chocolate bars (because, let’s be honest, chocolate is a girl’s best friend during those days), and maybe a little note of encouragement from you. And don’t forget to throw in a pair of fun, comfy period panties with a silly design—because who says periods can’t have a sense of humor?

Normalize and Empower

Reassure your daughter that getting her period doesn’t mean she’s any different from who she was before—it just means she’s growing up. Encourage her to ask questions, no matter how silly they might seem. And make sure she knows that it’s okay to have feelings about this—whether she’s excited, nervous, or a bit of both.

Empower her by reminding her that periods are a sign of health and strength. You might even say, “You’re joining an exclusive club of amazing women who have been through this, and let me tell you, we’re pretty awesome!”

Keep the Conversation Going

Remember, this is just the beginning of the conversation. Make sure your daughter knows she can come to you anytime she has questions or needs advice. And if she’s ever feeling down about her period, remind her that you’re in this together armed with love, laughter, and maybe a little chocolate.

Teaching your preteen about handling her first period doesn’t have to be daunting. With a loving approach and a bit of humor, you can turn this milestone into a bonding experience that strengthens your relationship and helps her feel confident and empowered. After all, this is just one of the many adventures you’ll navigate together on the journey of motherhood.